Making the decision to get a divorce is highly personal.

One should not take the decision about whether to divorce or not lightly. This is especially true if there are children involved. Stability in the home is of utmost importance when it comes to children so think carefully whether you and your children should stay in an unhappy marriage, or whether you should take them and leave.

It's true that children would rather come from a broken marriage than be part of one. If you and your spouse are not getting along, then you need to ask you some tough questions and you may have to make even tougher decisions about your future.

If you are in doubt regarding matters, ask yourself if you and your children will be happier living without your ex-husband. Children are able to adapt quickly and they will quickly adapt to living a slightly less luxurious lifestyle. Children will take love, peace and security over living a lavish lifestyle in a war zone, anyway.

If your children are at school, they cannot be expected to perform at their best when they come home to fighting every day. They need the stability that a loving couple or single parent can provide. As parents, we owe it to our children to provide them with a safe and loving environment. Just as we experience physical and emotional symptoms after an argument, our children also experience the same, and often more severely. The symptoms include:

• Nausea
• Anger
• Fear
• Unexplained weight loss
• Tremors
• Vomiting
• Depression

These are perfectly natural symptoms and emotions to expect when spouses and parents are constantly arguing. If you can’t stop, it may be time to consider getting help or walking away.

Once you come to the realisation about the extent to which your marital strife is affecting your children, you will know what to do. Even though children are known to be resilient, there is no reason why they should be exposed to this type of environment. If there’s abuse, it is the right time to pack your bags and get you and your children out of there.