are you truly fulfilled in your life, and as a person?
society has certain expectations of women. do you bow to the prescribed norm, even if it means being unhappy with the results?
As a woman, you were raised to fit into a certain mould: nurturer, giver, and provider of unconditional love. Life expects a certain balance, but by the nature of these expectations, it basically takes away everything that is balanced in your life. It's time to become real and start to accept and love yourself first, because it's only then that we're able to truly give your best to your children first, and then to family, friends, work, and society.
Here are the things you should learn to do for yourself, starting now:
1. Put yourself first
Our mothers were raised in an era of self-sacrifice, which is why many of them ended up bitter and unfulfilled. Some people believe that there's a correlation between breast cancer, stomach ailments and other conditions, and suppressing your own needs. We may not have direct and conclusive evidence, but we all know that when we don't prioritise ourselves, we are unable to truly give our best to our loved ones.
Take time to recharge and have some fun. You'll feel much more energised to give to others.
2. Be honest and direct
Are you afraid that people will be hurt if you're honest? Consider that perhaps bending the truth might hurt more in the long run. Honesty, even if it is not what we want to hear in a relationship, might actually help make it stronger. Few things feel better than knowing that someone has your back, unconditionally.
3. Accept your right to be happy
With a lot of negativity in life, it is a privilege to be happy. Allow yourself to be happy and even to celebrate when the opportunity presents itself.
4. Don't mourn when your feelings change towards someone
You are not bound to a relationship in which someone hurts you. You have every right to walk out of a relationship in which you were hurt.
5. Guard your heart
You don't have to apologise for being guarded after a tough relationship. A new potential partner will fully understand your reservations, and if he is worth your while, he will jump through the necessary hoops to break through the walls that guard your heart.
6. Let them go
Sometimes, relationships go sour and become toxic. You're not obliged to stay in those relationships, be it intimate relationships, friends or family.
7. Come to terms with what matters
Change is the only constant in life, so when you suddenly come to the realisation that you want something different now than what you wanted several years ago, embrace it. It's your right as a person to change lanes and to grow in the direction that sets your soul on fire.
8. Be discerning about how you invest your time
Some people only want to contact you when they want something. They will often become annoyed when you don't respond right away, and that's their loss. Whether you can't or don't want to get right back to them, feel free to explain your reasons, but don't apologise.
9. Forgive yourself for letting the wrong people into your life
Every person we meet crosses our paths for a reason, to teach us a lesson. Don't apologise for the lesson, because it will stand you in good stead throughout your life.
10. Stick to your boundaries
Strong fences make good neighbours, and strict boundaries keep our relationships healthy. You will meet people who like to push the boundaries, but you need to be strong in standing up to them. Self-preservation requires those boundaries.
11. Be truthful
People don't always want to hear what they need to hear, and it is up to us to tell them, in a tactful manner. They may not want to hear it right now, but they will appreciate it in the long run.
12. Stop agreeing with everyone
Even when you don't. You are entitled to your own beliefs and opinions. Just because your opinions differ from that of another person, does not make them right. Nobody should make you feel that your opinion is invalid or that you are wrong.
13. Be YOU
Be who makes you happy, even if it means being crazy, wild, and untameable. Be a nonconformist, be unique and take pride in your own unique being, unapologetically.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.