fear of doing life alone causes many people to start or stay in the wrong relationships
Sharing life with another person should not be based on an impulsive or irrational decision. Happy relationships don't just happen; they take work, commitment, nurturing and forgiving the same mistakes over and over again from both sides.
Unfortunately, many people are so lonely, that they are happy to be in any type of companionship, just so that they don't feel lonely and unloved.
Amy asked her abusive husband of seven years to leave, but within months of being apart, she was so lonely that she asked him to come back into her life again and again. They would have sex, although they were barely intimate during the last eighteen months of marriage. Afterwards, Amy would feel terrible, as she got no enjoyment from it, apart from momentary companionship.
She eventually filed for divorce, devastated at the fact that she lost her husband and her family unit of four, for which she had fought so hard. She even mourned the unpleasant and mostly dysfunctional in-law family unit.
Since Amy moved to the area when she married John, she also lost most of the instant circle of friends that she joined as his wife. Amy was alone with her two-year-old daughter and their cat, and felt like the only people on earth.
One night, laying in bed crying as she did every night, she realised that she was not crying for her husband because she loved him, but she was crying because she felt lonely and isolated.
Many people bounce from one relationship to the next, because they can't stand the thought of being alone. However, relationships of convenience can cause bigger issues down the road. Instead of being with someone for what they can give you, seek for those things within yourself.
Instead of looking for validation and companionship from another person, find ways in which to validate yourself. Find other ways to prevent loneliness. It is only when you are fulfilled within yourself that you can find a healthy relationship because you truly want it, and not because you need it.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.