There are many changes that you will face after getting divorced.
For some, this can be overwhelming so be sure to pace yourself and address each issue in order of importance. Some of the changes that you may have to make include the following:
- Relocating to a new suburb or city
- Relocating your child to a different school
- Learning to date again (when you are ready)
- Reviving your career
- Learning to manage finances
- Changing your name back to your maiden name
Changing your name is a matter of personal preference and does warrant serious consideration. First off, it’s okay to change your name or leave it as it is. If you want the option of changing it at a later date, be sure to have that documented in the divorce agreement. Failing to do so, will mean incurring extra legal costs as you have to revise the initial divorce decree. You will also have to appear in court again and you won’t want to do that in a hurry!
Below are a few matters to consider to help you make up your mind about keeping your married name or changing it back to your father’s surname:
- Right now, you may just want to get divorced so that you can move on with your life. Changing your surname may not be important and that is okay. Be sure to include the option to change at a later date in the divorce decree. It’s very possible that once the dust has settled, you will be ready to face the process of changing your name.
- You might be happy with your current surname, in that case, leave it. You have been known by that name for years so no sweat.
- Your ex-husband might insist that you change your surname. If he is so adamant about this then why would you want to keep using his name? Change back to your maiden name and move on with your life.
You may have established a name for yourself with your married name in your profession. In this case, it would be prudent to keep your married name as it takes time to build up a new name in the business world. Conversely, you may have had a name before you got married and stopped working when you got married. Now that you are single you may want to get back into the industry with a name that already has a brand.
Changing your name becomes a little tricky when there are children involved. It can create awkward moments when you and your children have different surnames. Children already feel trauma when there is divorce, having to explain this to their friends can only make things worse for them.
Whether or not your change your name is up to you. You should make this decision based on logic and reason not on emotion. Just because you still have the same surname as your ex does not tie you to him any more than the fact that you co-parent your children.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.