there comes a time when teenagers may not want to attend forced visitation.
If your children have been balking at the terms of the divorce specifically where it talks about scheduled visitations with their father - you might be caught in a difficult situation. It's not uncommon, as the teen years approach, for children to try avoid scheduled visitations - and you're caught between a rock and a hard place. You want to please your kids, but you also have an obligation to fulfill your part of the divorce decree.
What's wrong with this picture? Kids are supposed to love their father, and welcome the break from their mother, right? Not so fast. While you may be the one enforcing discipline on a daily basis, kids start to apply their minds as they become older, and may start acting up in a variety of ways:
1. Older teens may remember everything their dads did wrong. They start noticing sneaky behaviour (which might be part fo the reason for the divorce) and they may not want to be around someone who does those things.
2. Younger teens may try to avoid being seen with their dad. They may look for ways in which to avoid going places with him, and when forced to be with him, they will look for ways to escape.
3. Tweens usually become nervous around him, and start complaining about stomach aches or headaches, and spend a lot of time in their rooms, shutting themselves off from the hurt outside.
Often, fathers would file contempt charges when mothers refuse to threaten or use physical force to make the children go with their fathers. However, when you think about it, what would you do if your child acted that way about going to school? These are signs of something being seriously wrong and it warrants thorough investigation before you blindly send your kids on their way.
If a father had not been significantly involved in parenting during the marriage, it is possible that they may not want to spend a lot of time with him now. It's only natural that older kids may panic at the thought of having to spend large amounts of time with him now.
Listen to your children and keep notes and recordings. You never know when you might need it.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.