separating from your loved one can be a traumatic experience
choose your therapy
Separating from your loved one can take its toll on your physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.However, it is time you realize there are much greater things in life to look forward to and your ex was probably not the ‘one’.
Living a miserable life filled with your ‘loved one’ is the most horrid punishment you can give yourself because you are denying yourself all the real love out there in the world. Here’s how you can retain your sanity during separation:
Spend Time with Real Friends and Family
Unfortunately, difficult times reveal your true friends. Surround yourself with close family and friends who will offer you nothing but love and companionship. Right now, you do not need someone criticizing your choices or constantly mocking you for your mistakes. Everything is in the past now, hence you need to look for ways to look forward and that means leaving behind people who do not care about you. Once, you are done with the grieving process, ask your friends and family to help you sort out the legal details of your divorce.
Be Honest with the Kids
The divorce might be difficult for you but do not forget about your kids. They are probably terrified right now and have no idea of what’s going on. Lying to them will only make them question your claims again and again. Talk to them and be open to them about the breakup. They obviously need not know all the details but it is important you talk to them and help them understand that you are still a family, no matter what. Reach out to them before somebody else does. You are the parent, hence you need to take up the responsibility.
Get Smart with Money
Here is the thing: once you are done crying you need to start being practical. If you were financially relying on your partner, get your head in the game fast. If you do not already have a job, brush up your resume and get a move on. Not only will the job help you be financially independent but also it will keep you busy and provide you an outlet to socialize and hang out with new people. Best of all, your new coworkers won’t know about your partner so you can avoid the awkward conversations and sympathy chats nobody wants to have.
Whether it is playing paintball, baking or listening to heavy metal music, find your therapy. If you need to talk and seek clarity, seek help from a professional therapist who will help you see things clearly or simply confide in a good friend or family member who will not judge you and make you feel small about the way you feel.
Yes, divorce is terrible and so is separating from your loved ones but you have to realize it’s not the end of the world. Surround yourself with positive people and release all that pent up stress. It is crucial for retaining your sanity during separation.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.