we loved each other like friends, however, the spark in our marriage and sex life was gone
nothing like a bit of variety to spice things up
After 15 years of marriage, my sex life took the word ‘routine’ to new heights. We did it once a week, at the same time and in the same place.I was trying to accommodate my hubby and he simply did not wish to reject me any more than he had already done. We loved each other like friends, however, the spark in our marriage and sex life was gone. We eventually got divorced and that left me feeling rather insecure about my future sex life, but I needn’t have worried!
I have had sex with 5 men since my divorce and all I can say is wow! Nothing against my ex, but post-divorce sex rocks! There is no baggage involved with post-divorce sex. Both parties just want a good time and that really helps to make the sex sizzle. New sex partners bring a freshness to the table that is unequalled.
My ex-husband would say and do all the right things, however, I always felt that he was obliged to do so. Sex with a new person is exciting as you know that what is said and done, is meant. When he compliments my breasts or the way I kiss him, I know he means it. He is not trying to placate me to keep me happy. I feel 10 years younger.
Wham, bam and thank you, man! There is no need for redundant small talk, no need to discuss the kids and I certainly don’t have to do any washing or cooking after the deed. We have both satisfied each others’ needs and can carry on with our lives.
Variety is the spice of life, however, in a long marriage, this can be a problem. If I wanted to experiment with my ex, he would question where I had learned the new move or technique. The last thing I wanted to complicate my already failing marriage was accusations of having an affair. I never cheated on him, I just wanted something more than learning to be a missionary.
Sex with a new partner is like doing it for the first time again. You get that rush of red to the cheeks, the tummy butterflies and you cannot sleep at night. It takes the excitement levels to new heights all over again.
You can shag where, when and how you like. Sex with the ex is scheduled, the same position and subject to whether he is in a good mood or not. If you feel like shagging, pick up the phone and make it happen. No restrictions and no limitations.
You learn a lot after 15 years of sex with the same man. Now you can take all the expertise and know-how and enjoy it with another man. He will also bring some new tricks and style to the table and together you can make sweet music all night long.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.