the most responsible spouse usually gets the chance to take care of the kids
the driving force of every person is love and a sense of belongingness. everyone, regardless of his status in life or his ambition will always want to have someone to grow old with and possibly spend the rest of one’s life.
However, with the latest developments in the global perspective, especially in terms of morality and social exposure, we seldom see a couple who will even last a decade of marriage. Gone are the days when people will choose to live a troubled life. Most often couples will opt for a divorce to find a new love.
So what happens to the children?
The most responsible spouse usually gets the chance to take care of the kids. If the courts found out that spousal support is appropriate, then it is granted by the courts. The children will always be the priority. Despite the reasons of the break-up, the courts will always consider the welfare of the children.
Studies reveal that children who are products of a divorce usually exhibit behavioural problems. This is the effect of the tragic separation of parents. The children suffer and feel that they are no longer complete as a family. It is also a situation where the children suffer the stigma of a broken family.
Most often, the children are the subject of ridicule among their peers, plus the economic loss that he children will experience. Worst, when children are forced to relocate and the adjustment to the new environment results to the total devastation of a secured life of a minor child.
We all agree that in a divorce, the young children should always be the priority. Therefore, if indeed care for the future of the affected children, then as parents we have to anticipate the negative impact that a divorce may bring to our kids.
The life of a child will never rewind. It is his foundation as an individual. When a child experiences rejection because of the troubled divorce, the result could be irreversible. Most often, the child carries inside the trauma of the separation. When a child grows up, we thought that he is fine, until, we realized that the child bears the scars of the break-up.
It is our responsibility as parents to take good care of our children, no matter what happens to our marriages. When we decide to get married and have children, it means we accepted the responsibility of taking care of another life, an extension of our beings. Therefore, our marriage will not workout, nobody else can be blamed except us.
Thus, it is wrong to concept to just allow the negative feelings after the divorce to rule your life. Remember, a divorce is just a phase in your life. It is not the final stage where you have to stop living. If a relationship fails, it is your duty to yourself and to your loved ones to stand up again and try living a better life. Learn from the lessons that you have gained in that marriage.
After all, life is a continuing phase; it is taking chances again and giving you a second chance.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.