Is breaking up your relationship is a good strategy?
Some people believe that breaking up to make up is a good tactic to shock the other partner into doing what they want them to do.
Breaking up to make up can backfire so be careful before you try it. There was a young couple many years ago that truly loved each other. The guy was about 24 and the girl was about 18. Adam was footloose and fancy free and Rachel was studying to be a designer. Adam was enjoying his youth and trying to build a business while Rachel was building her life and wanted a more stable commitment from Adam.
Adam had few resources and was working his way into a partnership in a home based business. Rachel kept trying to get Adam to quit the business and get a real job. Sadly, Adam had only achieved high school education and was not equipped or trained to do any meaningful work. He believed that this business was his only option.
Adam and Rachel had a tumultuous on-off relationship which affected him terribly. He was unable to focus on his business and his partner became very impatient with him. Eventually Rachel decided that she would break up with Adam simply to scare him into succumbing to her wishes. Little did she know that Adam was headstrong and that he was not going to give into her demands.
Adam quickly found another girlfriend, Jennifer, who made him feel like a king and actually tried to help him with his business. Eventually, Adam left the country to try and make a success of his life in a new country and a new business. When Adam went to say goodbye to Rachel, she burst into tears and told him that she never wanted to breakup and that she only wanted him to quit the business and get a job.
Today, Adam and Rachel live in different countries with spouses of their own. Adam is an extremely successful business owner who travels the world whenever he chooses to do so. Sadly Adam and Rachel still love each other and cannot be together because she took a rather large gamble that never paid off.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.