The pain in the break-up is indescribable. The effects on children are beyond explanation. The effects on children are different from one child to the other. However, there is no argument that in most cases the effect on the child is traumatic. Besides, the economic well-being of the child is also affected.
Most often when parents separate the child is left to the care of the better and more responsible spouse. But, in extreme cases, the children are left in welfare homes, or even sent to adoption.
Indeed, it is a sad reality that a once happy marriage will end up in a tragedy. But, divorces and breakups are inevitable, and all we could do is to be realistic and do the best for those who are left.
Children are innocent of the parent’s war. Therefore, under the Australian Family Court, no decree of the finality of the divorce proceedings can be issued without finalizing the special arrangements for their minor children. They are also advised on the well-being and welfare of their kids, not just for the period of the divorce proceedings, but on a long-term basis.
The spouses are advised to set aside their pride and emotions, and rather concentrate on the effects of the break-up to their minor kids. After all, these are their flesh and blood and no matter what decisions they may make, these kids are their responsibilities.
Thus, it is sometimes amazing that children who are properly provided for by the parents even after divorce are far better off than those kids who remain in a troubled household.
Thus under the Australian family Court, spouses who will divorce are given options to seek help from divorce support groups, which could be a great help. They are exposing to the realities and possibilities that they can still be civil friends and responsible parents despite the divorce.
In our society, we have to consider the fact that we also have responsibilities to our fellow beings, especially to minor kids who are the victims of the wrong decisions of adults.