Separating from your partner can be a traumatic experience especially when you look back at all the promises you made to each other. Maybe the breakup was a surprise or perhaps you saw it coming a long time ago.
Whatever the reason, there is a limit to grieving and soon enough, you will have to get back up on your feet again. Right now, you are probably feeling, angry, upset and possibly even lonely. The good news is this feeling is just a phase that will eventually pass. Here are a few ways to get beyond a relationship breakdown and get over it:
Finding ways to contact your ex or stalking him/her on Facebook will not help you with your breakup. Dispose or return any of your ex’s possessions. Do not keep anything as it will only bring back bad memories. Toss them in the bin or burn the items: the choice is yours. You need to realize that this relationship has come to an end and the sooner you accept it, the better.
You need not put up a strong face for everyone. It is not healthy to bottle up all your feelings inside. The best thing for you to do in the initial days is to seek support from your family and friends. Vent out to them and confront things head-on. Whether it is by crying or punching a pillow, do not suppress your emotions and seek comfort from your loved ones.
Give yourself some time to cope with all that is happening around you. It is perfectly alright for you to take a break and function at a less than optimal level for a short period of time. Do not beat yourself for not being able to give it your all at work. Take the time to heal and re-energize yourself. Everybody needs time to heal and nobody is superman or superwoman.
Surround yourself with loved ones who want what’s best for you. Only reach out to close friends and family members. You do not need someone who will continuously poke fun or criticize you for your choices. It is also important that you are comfortable with sharing your feelings without worrying about being judged or coerced into what to do.
A divorce or a tough breakup is not the end of the world. Make an effort to meet new people or get involved in a community activity to keep yourself busy. Take care of yourself and do not be afraid to fall in love again. There are billions of people out there in the world which means your soul mate is probably out there somewhere. You just have to open your heart and be open to the idea of being able to fall in love all over again.