Do you feel like your relationship has lost its spark?

At the beginning of your relationship you went to fancy restaurants, you spent hours on the phone, sent each other sweet messages and told each other often how much you love each other. And now, it all seems to fade. Things aren’t so exciting anymore.

Are you wondering what you should do about it? Should you wait for your partner to bring back the love?

What we do know is that constant arguing or nagging won’t solve the problem. But you also don’t need to wait for your partner to bring your relationship back to life. Be committed and start doing a few things to bring back the spark to your relationship. Try these suggestions.

Love is often of the small things.

Cook him his favourite meal, light the candles, play romantic music. Surprise her with flowers and leave a little note on the fridge. Think of the things you did when you first met. Send the cute messages and tell him you love him. Make her a cup of tea – yes, guys you can do it too! Iron his shirt for him, even if you hate ironing. It’s easy, think about things that your partner likes and just do it.

Show affection and be touchy.

Hug her, kiss her and hold her. It makes cooking so much more fun if your man holds you from behind whilst you are stirring the pot. Run a bubble bath, dim the lights.

Girls, put on that sexy lingerie, make him want to spend the night.

Laugh together.

Don’t be so serious all the time. Have fun, joke about things. Be fun. Be a little naughty. Don’t nag. Make them feel good about themselves. Your partner must enjoy coming home and spending time with you.

Suggest going on a date

Go to the movies or the theatre. Do something that you both enjoy. Spending time together will bring back intimacy in your relationship. It does not have to be expensive or fancy. Buy an ice cream and walk along the beach, or watch the sunset. You don’t need to wait for your partner to do this, you can also suggest going on a date.

End the day together

Pillow talk is a great way to connect with your partner. If you live together, go to bed at the same time.  Switch the phones off and talk about your day. This is a good time to connect without any other distractions. If you don’t live together, switch the phone on, phone your partner and chat about your day before you go to bed. Have love talks on the phone.

So, if you are in love, but feel that the relationship has lost its spark, don’t give up. And don’t stay stuck in a boring relationship. Try out a few ideas to bring your relationship back to life. We all have our pride, but sometimes you can take that first step to rekindle the spark in your relationship.