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Many people choose to break up via text messaging

Breaking up is never fun, yet it is important to maintain your dignity when doing so. You don't want to get into a slanging match with your ex. Walk away with class

Many people choose to break up via text messaging. This is not the way to go. Rather confront your ex head on and let him or her down gently. Research reveals that many people believe breaking up via texting is both cruel and cowardly. You owe it to your ex to speak face to face about why you believe the relationship should end. Don't get into a war of words with your ex. Read on to find out how to break up in style.

Where to break up

It's not advisable to meet your ex at each other's homes. It's harder to part from the ex when you go to his or her place and they may be less than willing to leave your home. Meet somewhere public like a coffee shop so that you can get your message across quickly and without any drama. If the ex throws a tantrum, you can quietly stand up and walk away. Let's hope that your ex is equally mature about the break up as you are.

Time the break up carefully

No matter how you feel about your ex, you still consider his or her feelings. Don't break up on any special day such as birthdays or important holidays. You want your ex to forget about you as soon as possible so don't give any reason for memories to linger on and on.

Leave emotion at the front door

Do not be emotional when confronting your ex. Speak calmly and directly. Screaming and shouting will only leave your ex believing that there is still some unfinished business between the two of you. You have rationalized this breakup calmly with yourself so do the same when speaking to your ex. Don't waste time on justifying why you need to terminate the relationship as that just opens the door to debate and discussion. Simply tell him or her that the relationship has run its course and that you both need to move on.

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