some children breeze through divorce unnoticed at the time of the divorce
for years, many issues have been blamed on the long-term effects of divorce on children. are there short term effects?
Some children breeze through divorce unnoticed at the time of the divorce, but others find themselves struggling with a variety of consequences many years later, and even deep into adulthood. Researchers have created two legacies of divorce, namely long-term and short-term legacies.
Long Term Legacy - This legacy represents the impact of divorce that manifest much later on in a child's life, usually during the teenage years, or as an adult.
No two children experience the exact same symptoms in the same way, and the severity of the effects will depend on:
- the child's personality
- the child's relationship with both his or her parents
- the way in which the child learns about the divorce
- the way in which the parents experience the divorce as individuals
- the parent's attitudes, actions and relationship after the divorce
- whether the child has a stable support system in place
Shortly after the divorce, your child may experience a range of symptoms, including:
- total confusion
- behavioural problems
- academic problems
- experiencing powerlessness
- overwhelming emotions
- intense stress
- constant fears for his or her safety
- difficulty completing tasks
If you are going through a divorce, it is important to keep the lines of communication with your child open. Let them express how they feel and try to be a soft place to fall. It may be a good idea to enlist some people the child loves to provide a support system in which he or she can feel secure.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.