We, women, need to be connected to men emotionally before anything physical happens.

When we are married it is easy for that connection to be broken and that is when affairs and the like come into play. This happened to me simply because my ex and I no longer shared anything in common. It is as though we woke up one day did not even know each other. It is then that I started seeking fulfilment in the form of companionship outside of my marriage.

I started connecting with Peter on a well known social media site because I was bored one night. My husband had gone to bed early again and I needed to chat. Peter and I got chatting and found that we had lots in common with each other. Our political views were the same, we agreed on the issue of being pro-choice and we both loved reading. This was enough for us start an online emotional affair that destined us for great things from the start.

At first, I resisted meeting with Peter in person. I believed that my relationship with him was innocent enough as we were only chatting online. All our conversations were above board so I was not cheating on Mark (my ex). Peter might as well have been another girlfriend given the content of our communications.

Peter kept asking me to meet with him, but I was comfortable with things the way they were. One night Peter asked again if we could go for coffee. I looked at the time and saw it was only 19h45 and Mark was already tucked up in bed asleep! Where was my marriage headed to? I agreed to meet Mark for coffee at a nearby coffee shop. I guess I had had enough of entertaining myself before 6pm at night.

Peter and I met for coffee and wow did the sparks fly! In retrospect, this was as a result of all the online conversations that we had been having over the last 6 months. Peter and I had made huge emotional deposits into our relationship with months and months of quality communication. It was as if we had known each other forever. We continued to meet for coffee and I had to really fight the urge to sleep with him. I wanted him like I had never wanted any man in my life.

Peter and I eventually went to bed together and it was the greatest moment of my life. The intimacy was surreal. A scriptwriter for a porn movie could not have scripted more incredible and passionate sex than we had. I felt as though I was one with Peter and came to the realization that Mark and I had come to the end of the road. It was only fair to cut him loose and let him try to find happiness elsewhere.

Today, Peter and I are happily married. We keep communication because that is the cornerstone of any successful marriage or relationship. I know Peter will continue to communicate with me and that our relationship will go from strength to strength.