it’s really easy to sell yourself short after getting divorced
It’s really easy to sell yourself short after getting divorced. We women are wired emotionally often assume the blame when things go wrong in our lives. We are also extremely adept at settling for less than the best simply to get some much needed attention. This can cause us to make poor choices when we get back into the dating game.
We also want to stamp our authority by paying our own way when going on dates. This is not always practical, especially if there is kid or two in tow. Men are supposed to court and date women and picking up the tab is part of that process. Don’t interfere with that process by offering to pay for the date or even to go “Dutch”.
Going from a two income family to a one income family will seriously drain your finances and your money can be better spent than entertaining men that you hardly know. If he wants to court you, let him pick up the tab. You are going to need your money to run your home and for the unexpected little surprises that life is sure to send your way.
Some men may even find it offensive if you offer to pay. They want to woo and wow you and paying for the date is part of that process.
If you are a single mom, you are going to have your work cut out for you with regards to your finances. You will be responsible for the day to expenses of running a home. The rising cost of living is not going to help matters either. Each year, things become more expensive and as your children grow older, their needs become more costly. You are going to have consider college fees, extra curricular activities, unplanned medical costs and the like.
By letting the new man in your life pick up the tab, you will be better able to focus on building a new life for you and your children. You will appreciate going out on quality dates without having to worry about money. You should use this time to enjoy his company and not spend time worrying or nattering about children, bills, problems and the like.
There has been instances where men like to take advantage of recently divorced women. They exploit them by refusing to pay for dates. They use these women’s vulnerability to get them foot the bill time and again. You deserve better than this. You want to find a man who is sensitive to your’s and your children’s needs. He should not be pushy and should expect nothing but your friendship.
I guess it’s a matter of preference. I just want to know that I’m appreciated and that he’s prepared to take care of me.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.