Getting divorced means making some big changes to your life.
You will now have to raise your children alone, for the most part, you may have to relocate homes and schools and your role in your family’s finances will shift as you now have to make all the financial decisions alone. Much of this can be daunting, and the secret is to keep a cool head and work through this systematically.
Focus on the Bigger Picture
You have obviously chosen divorce as a last resort and you cannot let your fear of finances deter you from seeking a happier life. Just like you never married for money, there is no justifiable reason to stay married purely for monetary reasons.
You may have divorced a wealthy man and now need to make adjustments. Staying unhappily married purely for the money will only result in heartache and trauma. Many divorced women have gone on to live happy and enriched lives without all the trappings and stress of wealthy living. You will quickly learn to own your possessions and not be owned by your possessions and a husband that does not love you.
You will need to make some adjustments, and you will get through this. You are tougher than you think so hang in and get some independence going.
Stay Away From Propaganda
Conventional thinking tells us that divorce means financial hardship for women, but this does not have to be true. Many women find themselves in a much better position after divorce. One of the advantages is that you can now make your own decisions and don’t have to answer to anyone about how you spend your money. You may even start saving. If need be, find someone who can advise you on the best ways to manage your finances.
Life is What You Make It
Some people say that life is not fair, but in truth, it’s what you make of it. You get dealt the cards, and you must turn that into a winning hand. There are thousands of hard luck stories that have turned into miraculous victories for struggling women. This is your opportunity to defy the odds and create the perfect life for yourself. The first step towards this goal is to focus gratitude for everything that you do have, and then the rest will come in due time. Your self-talk and thoughts are critical at this time, so watch what you think and say. Develop a can-do attitude, and you will astound yourself.
Don’t Let Statistics Define Who You Are
Don’t buy into all the statistical data regarding divorced women as this will break you down instead of building you up. You are not a statistic; you are an individual with a destiny and a (successful) story to fulfil. Statistics never tell the full story, and they are certainly not related to your circumstances. The media thrives on bad news and scary stories, and they don’t always tell the full story. You sit down with pen and paper and formulate your plan and then work that plan!
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.