society has become desensitised to relationship breakdown
it is time we learn to understand that the aftermath of divorce can be devastating, especially for children. apart from the emotional upheaval, there are several practical issues that require attention.
A person who is dealing with the impacts of a relationship breakdown is not being the victim, or hanging on to the past. Instead, he or she is dealing with the impacts of a broken relationship or a household on their family, children, livelihood, and social life.
Children often suffer the most in a divorce and the break-up of their families. Bitter parents blame one another for what has gone wrong and the children are caught in the middle. As parents, it is important for parents to efficiently co-parent for the sake of the children's emotional well-being.
Unless parents can avoid blurring their perspectives of their ex-partner, and practice positive parenting, the kids will struggle to adjust, and probably display behavioural issues, that will cause even more difficulty.
Many parents and children alike feel that they don't get the opportunity to express their views in court, except through family consultants, psychologists and lawyers. It is rare for children to have one-on-one discussions with a Judge.
The reason for this is that a child's view is only one of more than sixteen determining factors that is considered in Court before a decision is made. These factors all determine the outcome that is in the child's best interest.
While a child's wishes are important, most children don't have the emotional maturity require to make a decision that will be in their own best interests. However, as the child matures, his or her wishes are given more weight.
Most importantly, a legal dispute in the family is never pleasant, and leaving the decision to the child may lead to long-term emotional and behavioural issues. That is why a child's views are filtered through psychologists, lawyers and family consultants. Essentially, the child is shielded from direct exposure to the litigation process.
In a recent announcement, the Federal Government made an endorsement of $20 million which would provide couples with educational courses or counselling. Community groups are excited at the prospect of these vouchers helping to protect the sanctity of marriage that would ultimately encourage positive environments for children in broken homes.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.