Relationships change over time as do most things

Each of us evolves as we go through life’s ups and downs, so it is unrealistic to expect our relationships to remain unchanged. Some relationship changes are quite normal. Others are not, and the partners should seek help.

It is normal over the course of a relationship for the emotions to transition from the initial desire for one another to a relationship of deeper trust and friendship. Over our lives, our attitudes, our conduct and our values change. As we change so too does our relationship. It is the way that we deal with these adjustments that are a test of how the relationship will endure.

What Happened to the Passion?

Most people in a long-term relationship will experience a reduction in sexual passion over the years. This is natural and is helped along by the pressing daily needs of home and work. If this occurs you and your partner should discuss the problem together. If you are unable to reconcile your sexual differences, consult a sex therapist. They are trained and have assisted many couples to rediscover their libidos.

Sexual Interests are Changing

Over time our interests change. It is no different with sex. As we evolve and experience new things, it is normal to develop new interests and discard old ones. If your partner expresses a need to change the sexual experience between you, it shows that your relationship is one where communication is open and honest.

When Suddenly Sex Comes to a Halt

When sexual relations come to a sudden halt with no discussion or communication, you could have a serious problem on your hands. Seek help in resolving the issue as it could be an indicator of problems ahead.

A Reduction in Empathy

If your relationship has reached a stage where you no longer listen to one another. If you have little compassion, and you don’t care about nor understand the perspective of the other, your relationship is in trouble

Spending Less Time Together

Couples should always give each other space, and allow for some time for each to follow their own pursuits. As the relationship matures, it is normal to spend less time together, and more time following your own hobbies and passions.

Difficulties in the Relationship

We all go through periods in our lives where things don’t go according to plan. There will be times when we have to face major difficulties with family, our homes or our jobs. This can put a strain on the relationship, but it doesn’t mean that the relationship is in trouble. As long as we can talk through the problems and solve them together, the relationship will develop and strengthen.

Abusive or Controlling Behaviour

No partner should accept abusive or controlling behaviour. All couples, at some stage, will face difficulties. Mature adults will deal with these difficulties in an adult way without resorting to abusive behaviour.

Likewise controlling behaviour is unacceptable. Any attempts by one partner to manipulate the actions of another is disrespectful. If allowed to continue, this behaviour will damage the relationship and the happiness and self-esteem of the controlled partner.