you've just broken up with your lesbian lover and still want to be friends
how long should you stay away?
Find out if this is wise to do and if not, how to handle the situation with dignity.
In the beginning of a lesbian relationship it is all sunshine and roses. You cannot keep your hands off of one another, and you stay up until the break of dawn talking and connecting. Life is good and you are in relationship heaven. While most relationships start off like this, not all of them stay the course and some end up breaking down. Now you may be in the situation where the relationship is broken and you still want to be friends, is this a good idea ? Staying friends with your ex lesbian lover is easier said than done.
Another question is what should you do if you are unable to remain friends after the lesbian relationship breakup?
For most couples it's probably best to give each some space. You obviously could not get along together while you were an item and nothing will change in the short term for you. Even though it hurts like crazy, you both need to step back and give each other some breathing room.
Your heart may be telling you that you need to see her, however seeing her is only going to make the situation worse. It will cause you more heartache that you can well do without. Now is a time for healing and repairing.
You stay away until the hurting stops. This should be no less than a month and will probably be a lot longer. Giving each other space means no communication at all. No phone calls, no texting, emails or meetings. If you do need to meet to wind things up or you co-share pets, you need to keep these meetings as short as possible. You could meet for coffee to discuss these issues but to stick to the topics at hand. Don't get side tracked and try to rekindle the relationship.
While it will be difficult in the beginning, know that time heals everything and it will get better.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.