Can a marriage survive adultery?

Being cheated on can be devastating, as can returning to your marriage when an affair ends. Is there hope at the end of the tunnel?

Can a marriage survive an affair? Some people believe it boils down to luck, however with some effort; anything can be fixed, including a fractured marriage.  A marriage can survive infidelity if both partners want it to work.

In some cases, a spouse will want to move on to their new partner, and there is no way that the marriage will work. Other couples realize that they have too much invested in the relationship and they will resolve to do what it takes to get their marriage back on track.

A marriage cannot be reconciled under the following conditions:

• You cannot resolve issues by simply sweeping matters under the rug. You both have to face the issues head-on and resolve to sort them out.
• Wishing and hoping that the marriage will sort itself out will not work. Both parties have to be proactive in making the marriage work.
• Playing the blame game won't work either. It takes both parties to make and break a marriage. Come clean about the part you played and work together to fix it. Blaming each other only serves to further fracture the relationship.

Fixing Your Marriage

Forgiveness

If you have been cheated on, you are going to be angry and hurt. You will have to forgive your spouse if the marriage is to work.

Working on Yourself

You are both going to have to work on yourselves to make the necessary changes that will fix your marriage. Be honest with yourself and make those changes.

Devise an Action Plan

If passion is missing in your marriage, you and your spouse need to come up with ways to revive that flame. It's easy to take things for granted, and your marriage is not one of them. Think of ways to create sparks in your marriage and work at it.

There's nothing more sacred than the sanctity of marriage so pull out all the stops and make it happen.