the importance of being resourceful after a divorce
One of the benefits of being married is being able to lean on your spouse when a crisis arises.Whether it is changing a light bulb, a flat tire, dealing with noises in the house late at night or taking Fido to the vet.
If your ex has been responsible for the above tasks for the last number of years, it’s now your turn to step up to the plate and deal with them yourself. Remember that necessity is the mother of invention and you can do anything you put your mind to.
You also have more resources at your disposal than you may realize. While your first response might be to scream and shout, we both know that this will not solve anything. Rather stay calm and make a list of alternative options that you have in order to achieve your objectives.
While you may face inconvenience in trying to be resourceful, what matters is getting the job done. It’s in the moment of calmness that you are able to figure out workable solutions to your challenges. Calmness in the face of adversity can help you achieve almost anything. This does not mean becoming the handyman of the year, but rather learning to ask the right questions in order to achieve certain outcomes.
The golden rule is to take a step back and ask these questions:
- What do I wish to achieve.
- How can it be achieved?
- Do I need outside assistance?
- Who can help me?
If you are calm enough to ask these questions and wait for the answers, you’ll be amazed at what you can achieve. You may even be driven enough to do some research and sort the challenge out yourself.
Disclaimer : This article provides basic information only and is not a substitute for a professional or legal advice. It is prudent to obtain legal advice from a family lawyer.